Jean Klein used to say that the word “pain” is not the thing “pain,” meaning that the word itself is not the experience of pain. That is the same for anger, love, etc. It is important because rather than actually experiencing the issue, be it pain, anger, etc., we relate to the word and all of the memory associated with the word.
If we feel that there is pain it is more helpful if we experience the pain directly, immediately without an intermediary like memory. We allow it to reveal itself without condemning or trying to eliminate it. Where is the location of the pain? What does it actually feel like?
When we do so, we may find that the pain is much smaller and less intense than we thought. At the very least by experiencing the pain we will notice that pain is an object in our awareness. It is not that we are in pain but rather pain is in our awareness. This is quite liberating.
This post is from a collection of essays, stories, insights and poems that have occurred to me along the Way titled Here to Now and Behind.